Kad ju je kćer nazvala debelom, ova je majka imala odgovor

Djeca su direktna i uvijek kažu ono što misle. Što je zapravo odlično i protiv toga se bismo se trebali boriti. Ma kako nam teško bilo koji puta čuti istinu o sebi. Ipak, to je prilika i da djecu naučimo pravim vrijednostima. Amerikanka Allison Kimmey ispričala je što se dogodilo kad ju je kći nazvala debelom.

„Kćer me danas nazvala debelom.“, napisala je ispod fotografije na kojoj su ona i njezina četverogodišnja kćer Cambelle u kupaćim kostimima. „Bila je uzrujana jer sam nju i njezinog brata natjerala da izađu van iz bazena te mu je rekla da je mama debela.“

 

My daughter called me fat today. She was upset I made them get out of the pool and she told her brother that mama is fat. I told her to meet me upstairs so we could chat. Me: "what did you say about me?" Her: "I said you were fat, mama, im sorry" Me: "let's talk about it. The truth is, I am not fat. No one IS fat. It's not something you can BE. But I do HAVE fat. We ALL have fat. It protects our muscles and our bones and keeps our bodies going by providing us energy. Do you have fat?" Her: "yes! I have some here on my tummy" Me: "that's right! So do I and so does your brother!" Her brother: "I don't have any fat, I'm the skinniest, I just have muscles" Me: "actually everyone, every single person in the world has fat. But each of us has different amounts." Her brother: " oh right! I have some to protect my big muscles! But you have more than me" Me: "Yes, that's true. Some people have a lot, and others don't have very much. But that doesn't mean that one person is better than the other, do you both understand? Both: "yes, mama" Me: "so can you repeat what I said" Them: "yes! I shouldn't say someone is fat because you can't be just fat, but everyone HAS fat and it's okay to have different fat" Me: "exactly right!" Them: "can we go back to the pool now?" Me: no 🤣🤣 __________________ Each moment these topics come up i have to choose how I'm going to handle them. Fat is not a bad word in our house. If I shame my children for saying it then I am proving that it is an insulting word and I continue the stigma that being fat is unworthy, gross, comical and undesirable. Since we don't call people fat as an insult in my household, I have to assume she internalized this idea from somewhere or someone else. Our children are fed ideas from every angle, you have to understand that that WILL happen: at a friends house whose parents have different values, watching a tv show or movie, overhearing someone at school- ideas about body image are already filtering through their minds. It is our job to continue to be the loudest, most accepting, positive and CONSISTENT voice they hear. So that it can rise above the rest. Give me a 🙌🏻 if this resonated w u! Just do you! Xoxo Allie

Objavu dijeli ALLIE 🌸 Just Do You, Babe! (@allisonkimmey) Lip 11, 2017 u 8:48 PDT

No, umjesto da bude tužna ili ljuta, 30-godišnja majka porazgovarala je sa svojom djecom. „ Što si to rekla?“ – „ Da si debela.“ Onda je Allison objasnila svojoj djeci da nikog ne mogu vrednovati po tome koliko kilograma ima.  "Nitko nije debeo. Ja nisam debela. Salo nije nešto što JESI, nego nešto što IMAŠ. Ja IMAM masne naslage. One štite naše mišiće i kosti te našem tijelu osiguravaju energiju. Neki ljudi ih imaju malo više, a neki malo manje, ali imamo ih svi.“

Zašto je Allison podijelila ovu priču na Instagramu? Želi druge žene osvijestiti koliko je važno naučiti svoju djecu što su to prave vrijednosti u životu.

„Ti si debeo/la nije uvredljiv izraz u našem domu. Ako kaznim svoju djecu jer su to rekli, onda dokazujem da je debeo uvredljiva riječ i nastavljam stigmu da je biti debeo odvratno i nepoželjno.“

Sa svojom objavom je Allison izazvala raspravu o fizičkom izgledu. Mnogi su se korisnici složili s njom, no neki su je kritizirali.

 

✋🏼STOP SCROLLING✋🏼Hey babes!! Up bright and early with a very important message that you NEED to hear! Sometimes I get all cozy and snuggled up in my little body positive and self love bubble. It's warm there, and there's rainbows and the best jams and only the most magical people. I have worked tirelessly to make this little bubble for myself. But sometimes I have to take a day trip to "real world" and get a little dose of what I call *this is why I do what you do* What I mean by that is: there's a lot of hate in this world...and people are ready to bring you down at any chance of finally feeling more worthy themselves. I see aggression in people but I see pain too. I'm not here to educate the unwilling or make excuses for the ignorant- but I am constantly reminded that I am here for you, beautiful soul, the one that doesn't have your impenetrable self love bubble built yet and can't see a way out of judgement and self depreciating thoughts. And there's something I need you to know: no matter how much you change- your circumstances, your body, your finances, your job, your relationship status - You are worthy of JOY, LOVE, OPPORTUNITY, and probably the most important and least received: RESPECT. NOW. NEXT MONTH. NEXT YEAR. THIS ENTIRE LIFETIME. IN ANOTHER LIFE. FOREVER. INFINITY. And on that same note, allowing others to shine in THEIR light will never dim what only YOU can offer to the world. So let's light it up! The whole dam world. With love, and kindness, and pure joy, and respect! And babe, if you want to come inside my self love bubble- there's an invitation waiting for you with the link in my profile! Isn't it time you started allowing yourself to feel worthy of these things? Just do you babes! Xoxo Allie _______ #justdoyoucrew #bopo #bodypos #bodypositive #selflove #transformationtuesday #confidence #youareworthy #embracethesquish #everybodyisbeautiful

Objavu dijeli ALLIE 🌸 Just Do You, Babe! (@allisonkimmey) Lip 13, 2017 u 5:11 PDT

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