Imala sam pobačaj - Instagram profil koji razbija veliki tabu

Mnogo žena je prošlo kroz pakao pobačaja i izgubilo bebu, a ipak je ta tema još uvijek tabu, nešto o čemu se priča u samo svoja četiri zida. Ipak, saborska zastupnica Ivana Ninčević Lesandrić o svom iskustvu s kiretažom jednostavno nije mogla šutjeti. No, predsjednik Sabora je na njezino iskustvo predstavio kao "iznošenje pretjerano intimnih detalja" te ga "dovodi u neugodnu poziciju".  Što bi gospodin Jandroković tek rekao na Instagram profil Jessice Zucker?

Možda vas zanima "Rekli su mi da odem na WC i rukama uhvatim plod koji pobacim" Život

Jessica Zucker je doktorica psihologije iz Los Angelesa koja je i sama proživjela intimnu tragediju - 2012. je izgubila je dijete u 16. tjednu trudnoće, i doživjela veliku traumu te pokrenula Instagram profil I Had A Miscarriage.

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"Bila sam sama kod kuće, u kupaonici s bolnim grčevima u trbuhu, kad sam primijetila veliko krvarenje i osjetila da dijete izlazi iz mene. Nazvala sam svog ginekologa koji mi je telefonom davao savjete što da učinim dok ne dođe hitna, uključujući i to da sama prerežem pupčanu vrpcu. Poslije toga moj život više nikad nije bio isti", ispričala je Jessica te dodala kako ju je taj događaj, ali i strah koji je imala kad je sljedeći put nakon toga ostala trudna, nagnao da o tom iskustvu piše blog, a zatim i pokrene ovaj Instagram profil. Danas na tom profilu mnoge žene dijele svoje intimne priče, svoja iskustva, tugu i strahove, ali dr. Zucker im, osim riječi ohrabrenja, daje i savjete kako krenuti dalje, razbija mitove, ali i strahove koji ih sprječavaju da ponovno zatrudne.

 

Finding Hope by @purdy_nurse. Stories from around the world (Lynchburg, VA). Posted with permission. _ I still remember the feeling of that cold, unforgiving floor against my body. I shook with agony as the blood gushed and the baby that I longed for, that I loved so dearly, was gone within an instant. _ Four times I layed on that wretched floor and lost my babies against my will. _ Fast forward several years, lots of doctors and many tears, I had all but given up hope. Many told me I had one child and should feel blessed. Bullshit. That doesn't negate the fact that I lost four babies and still wanted another child. _ I cried when I saw those two pink lines, not from excitement, but because of fear. I had lost all hope and refused to get hurt again until I saw that little flicker on the screen and I knew this time it was different. I waited for something to go wrong and found it difficult to enjoy pregnancy again. So I held my breath and just waited. October 15, 2016 my rainbow baby was born and I finally was able to breath a sigh of relief as I pulled my baby boy onto my chest and cried once again, but this time, they were tears of pure joy. _ #IHadAMiscarriage #rainbowbaby #pregnancyafterloss #motherhood #grief #loss #birth #1in4 // Photographed by @kerrisajoellephotography.

Objavu dijeli Jessica Zucker, Ph.D. (@ihadamiscarriage) Lis 31, 2016 u 11:47 PDT

Priče na ovom Instagram računu su potresne, poput onih koje donose žene koje su imale niz pobačaja (i svejedno ne odustaju), koje su rodile, ali je beba ubrzo nakon poroda umrla... Žene dijele fotografije svojih trbuščića snimljene kada je s trudnoćom sve još uvijek bilo u redu i kad nisu ni slutile da će njihova silna sreća nepovratno nestati u samo jednom trenu ili fotografije svojih postporođajnih tijela bez bebice u naručju...

 

Dear Leon by @paula.gryska. Stories from around the world (Scotland). Posted with permission. _ Dear Leon, It only seems right to tell your story now as you came into our lives on the 23rd of December last year. I took a pregnancy test that day and those 2 magic lines turned pink straight away. I remember feeling so happy! I couldn't wait to tell everyone about you! And so I wrapped those two plastic sticks with my urine on them in a big red bow and just like that made your dad the happiest man on the planet. _ Funnily, we decided not to do gifts for each other that year. Who knew we would receive the most beautiful gift of all?! YOU. Our FIRST baby 🌟 _ Our 9 months together was mainly filled with you trying really hard to break my ribs. You kicked so hard we laughed and thought you must be wearing shoes inside. For 40 weeks you made me feel like I was superhuman. I loved to sing and dance around with you, talk to you and plan what your future would be like. _ Leon. You will always be our FIRST son. You were born 27.08.16 @ 2:57 am and gave us 5days 15hours and 18minutes to cuddle and love you like no one has ever been loved before. You gave us a chance to be your parents. _ You suffered terrible brain damage and couldn't be saved. We had to make a decision to take you off life support and for the first time in our lives we knew what it really feels like to have a broken heart. You fell asleep in my arms at 6:15pm on the FIRST of September and changed us and our lives forever. Love you & miss you always. Mum & Dad _ #IHadAMiscarriage #infantloss #stillbirth #stillborn #grief #loss #motherhood

Objavu dijeli Jessica Zucker, Ph.D. (@ihadamiscarriage) Pro 23, 2016 u 11:47 PST

Ipak, čak i na ovakvom profilu i ima i onih priča koje donose optimizam, poput onih koje pričaju žene koje su nakon pobačaja (neke i nakon niza njih) uspjele ponovno ostati trudne i ostvariti majčinstvo. Dr. Zucker napominje kako žene često nakon pobačaja, uz strašnu bol i tugu, osjećaju i sram ili krivnju zbog gubitka trudnoće, okrivljujući sebe što im tijelo nije moglo iznijeti trudnoću te se osjećaju iznimno usamljenima, a baš tu leži njezina najvažnija misija: “Želim skinuti stigmu s pobačaja i nadam se da će se žene, zbog ovog Instagram računa, osjećati manje usamljene i pomoći jedne drugima".

 

@tessastephens__ shares: "One year ago today admiring my changing body, my growing son. What I wouldn't give to feel Jude's movements again....What I wouldn't give to have him here in my arms. Nothing more beautiful than a mother and the love for her child 🌿." _ #IHadAMiscarriage #pregnancyloss #stillbirth #lifeafterloss #loss #preeclampsia #hellpsyndrome #grief #bereavedmother #infantloss #lossmom #20weeks #pregnancy

Objavu dijeli Jessica Zucker, Ph.D. (@ihadamiscarriage) Lip 27, 2017 u 10:43 PDT